Sunday’s Theme Music

Today’s theme music is “(If Loving You Is Wrong) I Don’t Want to be Right”. Humming along with it as it flowed through my stream this morning during the routines, I thought about the song’s complex, grown-up nature.

I was sixteen when the song was released in 1972 and going through the standard processes involving discovering love and sex. Little did I know how complicated it could all be. The big lie still held about finding someone and falling in love, marrying for laugh, and growing old together. Big cracks were appearing in the big lie. Love and sex, as well as gender identity and sexual orientation are all more complicated than the big lie’s straightforward depiction. Then religion society gets involved – a black man and a white woman? Social norms add new pressures and dimensions.

That’s behind the song. He’s in love with another woman, having an affair and cheating on his wife. And the woman is having an affair with a married man. Both of those are taboo. The man understands that he has commitments. Needs change.

I’m not trying to defend him so much as think about how complicated love, sex, society, marriage and life can be. It’s not as clean and simple as the big lie leads us to believe.

Am I wrong to fall so deeply in love with you
Knowing I got a wife and two little children
Depending on me too
And am I wrong to hunger
for the gentleness of your touch
knowing I got somebody else at home
who needs me just as much

And are you wrong to fall in love
With a married man
And am I wrong trying to hold on
To the best thing I ever had

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Of course, the other part of this is what it would do to his wife if she discovered his betrayal, and what could result from that, nor what the guilt can do to him and his thinking and psyche.

Many performers and groups have covered this R&B classic, but that original voice and music is seared into my brain. Luther Ingram didn’t write it, but he delivered the sound.




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  1. Glad you introduced the song as you did, about the complexities of love and sex.
    But things have changed in pop music, at least to my ear. Nowadays the songs are more about defending your situation than trying to fit oneself into contemporary social complexities.
    This has the effect of dichotomizing society into competing (warring, if you will) roles and perspectives. What we REALLY need is what you mentioned at the outset: how does one’s sexual/social role fit into the overall picture of society? Keep this topic alive – it needs more oxygen. CHEERS!!

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      1. There are other characteristics that, I think, separate the music you and I love from that of today.

        Here’s what I see as a big one: back in the day, think of any famous groups: Beatles, Stones, Eagles, Airplane, America, etc., had more or less co-equals in the groups THAT SANG IN HARMONY. You don’t see much of that today. What you see is a star singer or hot guitarist with a back-up band. There may be harmonies but they’re not up front the way they used to be.

        I think the state of pop music in any era is much more than a metaphor for that era’s zeitgeist. Back then people of all stripes committed themselves to work cooperatively for the good of all. Nowadays much more hinges on the personality of one person who is “more important” than any other. Personal ego sets itself apart from other egos, hence less social cooperation and more conflict.

        It’s something that needs to be re-balanced in society, but first we need to see the issue. I can only hope that more and more become aware of the dangers of not putting the welfare of ALL first.

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